Lakewood teen's untimely death.....

Dee Krupp · Post by **Dee Krupp** » Tue Jan 27, 2009 10:56 pm

One of my daughter's friends attempted suicide on Jan. 5, and sadly she passed away last week. As hard as it is for her and her group of friends to deal with this horrible tragedy, I think it is going to be even harder because they aren't able to say goodbye to her. They weren't able to visit her in the hospital, and the family isn't able to afford the funeral.

I know times are tough, but if you are able to help...

Send donations to Brown-Robinson Funeral Home, 2653 Broadway, Lorain, OH 44052 or drop off at any Fifth Third Bank.

http://www.sanduskyregister.com/article ... 111923.txt

Jim O'Bryan · Post by **Jim O'Bryan** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 7:15 am

Dee

Thank you for posting this information.

If it is the girl who is my neighbor, it is indeed a tragic story, and the entire neighborhood has been deeply saddened and affected by this.

If it is not, it is even more troubling, as it seems, Lakewood could be
experiencing an epidemic, of depression, lost souls, and people needing
people.

Thanks again.

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Justine Cooper · Post by **Justine Cooper** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 9:00 am

Thank you Dee for posting and bringing things into perspective, as chilling and heartbreaking that is to hear. My son's good friend attempted this in December and I tried everything to visit her but was not allowed, even though she had no mother or mother figure there. Thank God she survived but I can imagine this girl's family and friends and how helpless they had to feel to not be able to visit her. The way that system is set up hurts the victim even more.

Jim,
I truly hope you get something going because this is too common and one conversation or intervention could change the course of a teen's life and even safe. I know this firsthand.

Jim O'Bryan · Post by **Jim O'Bryan** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 10:17 am

Justine Cooper wrote:Jim,
I truly hope you get something going because this is too common and one conversation or intervention could change the course of a teen's life and even safe. I know this firsthand.

Justine

I am sure that working with you on this we can accomplish miracles.

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sharon kinsella · Post by **sharon kinsella** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 10:36 am

How deeply sad.

Dee Krupp · Post by **Dee Krupp** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 11:51 am

Imagine the guilt her friends are feeling because Danisha had made several remarks about taking her life, but the kids didn't take her seriously...she said it so often. If that's one thing I have taken away from this is to try and let my kids know that this stuff should be taken seriously. I am having a bit of a hard time with that now though because I don't want my daughter to feel like it's her fault that she didn't say anything. There are other details of this child's situation that I won't post publicly, but it is very disheartening.

I did find out she is having a funeral on Friday morning in Sandusky (where apparently her mother is from), although it has not yet been paid for.

Justine Cooper · Post by **Justine Cooper** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 12:00 pm

They really shouldn't have guilt as they didn't cause her pain and many threaten suicide often so it is too hard to know when they are serious. Another local teen attempted this past month and then the other one I mentioned in December. A girl from St. Joe's just passed from cancer.

Hug your kids.
Hug other people's kids.
For every negative have at least three or more positives.
Validate their feelings even if you don't understand them.
Tell them you love them every day.
When they tell you they hate you tell them you still love them.
Never turn down reading to them, playing with them, listening to them.
Never forget how difficult it can be to be a child.
Never be so boastful about your own children that you can't help others.

There is so much all of us could learn from a tragic incident as this.

Dee Krupp · Post by **Dee Krupp** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 12:15 pm

Oh wow Justine. When I was a teenager, I never knew anyone that killed themselves. But I am hearing it so often these days. When I told my sister about my daughter's friend, she told me that one of my niece's friends committed suicide in high school as well. So disheartening.

Very good advice though!!