To initiate a dialogue is not to make or accept excuses. (We are all responsible for our actions.)
To initiate a dialogue is not, as Shawn states, to lead to "more social programs funded by the government."
To initiate a dialogue is to open an inquiry for broader understanding. As dl succinctly says:
Perhaps the term "understanding" should be clarified. "Understanding" does not mean "so much sympathy that I no longer hold people responsible for their behavior." Understanding means "letting go of our assumptions, broadening my knowledge of the many factors and perspectives involved" in an issue.Community conversations are valuable and may lead us towards better understanding of each other, which allows us more opportunities to be better neighbors.
Strong communities are the result of good neighbor communication.
To understand does require us to listen; to listen does require some form of acceptance--i.e. we presume the person or perspective we're listening to may turn out to be legitimate or have something to teach us.
My question for the group: are we starting this dialogue with our ears closed and our minds already made up?
If so, we would be hamstringing the dialogue before it's begun. An effective dialogue begins with the premise that all parties have something to learn from others and that none of us begins with the full answer.
This topic is eliciting strong responses--a sign we have strong feelings about it. In my experience, I have found it most difficult to remain open when I have (legitimate) frustrations about an issue.
We may need to work very hard to prepare ourselves to hear and listen as part of a dialogue about such a difficult topic.
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Shawn asks, "why should we stop with just African American students"? I'm willing to start by focusing first on race since Sean initiated this and correctly points out that this is a full plate, for starters.
However I am very much interested in expanding the focus to all problem behaviors in Lakewood by all people, of all ages, all genders, all ethnicities. I'd like a "good neighbor" dialogue that helps adults in our neighborhoods, as well as kids in our schools.