Charyn Compeau wrote:Long story short, Jim, yes - the schools can hurt a mother that badly.
Peace,
Charyn
Charyn - Anne
I have no children, I have friends with kids, some have special needs but that as close as I get to this problem. But it would seem that if what you two say is true, either we have failed miserably, and must take drastic measures to correct, or something has gone terribly wrong with the system, the parents, and the kids.
I had the displeasure of speaking with Phil, sometimes for as long as four hours at a shot. when he found I I had called the police and was working with them, he would come to the office to threaten me, talk with me, plead with me, and taunt me. I received emails galore, all were turned over to the police.
Dan Slife, spent hours talking with him, Ken Warren and Stephen Calhoun spent hours talking with him an dissecting the notes, the meanings and the metaphors. AT NO TIME did any of us think the guy was safe, what alone safe with children. As the story goes, and Calhoun will back me up, 15 minutes into our talk with him I turned to Steve and said, "We have a serial pedophile on our hands." At the 1 hour mark, we thought we had a murderer, but the 4th hour, the story was so dark and troubling that in my notes from that night I wrote, "I had just spent the darkest hours of my life in Lakewood." Phil was talking to us to convince us that his school, deserved a spot on the board, and that we should write a story about him and the school. The reason we had this talk was that other boards in the area let him use on of his many faux names, and we were not going to even let him on the Deck, until he proved he was a friar, and his name was Petty.
Oh he had the razzle dazzle that would wow any child ages 1-13. Any parent with any sensibilities should have seen right through it instantly. Been to the house, saw it, made my office look clean! Leave a child in that filth and squalor for drumming and education! I have to think when a child has special needs it means he/she has special needs. I doubt that those needs are to be off loaded to any creep with a story.
To think that ANY mother would release a child into his custody borders on criminal neglect. To think he worked at schools and groups in Cuyahoga County, Columbus, Lexington, St. Louis and California, and was moved around ala Catholic Priest, again borders on complicity. Cyber City Cafe, run by retired teachers I believe, had a list of 20 kids that Phil had brought in to play games. They would later host beer fundraisers for Phil! I am dying for one person to tell me how any of that makes sense, is even remotely legal, or should be tolerated by any parent, what alone city. (I still have two of the flyers, and Rozi's has the reciept for the kegs.)
At no point did any of us see Phil as anything but predator. To back that up all you need to do is talk to his neighbors. Most had children that would have drawn in Phil's eyes. Ages 1-13. None knew anything of Phil's school, teachings, etc. Phil knew to keep it away from the neighbors, far better to feed in Lakewood, Westlake, Cleveland Heights, etc.
The three mothers I know, had no disabled children. The five mothers that decided not to give Phil their children had no child with special needs, but they all thought drumming and alternative education was cool, and the new pathway. I did a little study with parents after that week, and asked about drumming and alternative education, 90% of the time the parent would come back with "sounds interesting."
The sad thing is Gen X, and those on both sides had NO CRITICAL CHOPS. Someone had pulled their most basic of tools from their tool kit. Questions we asked out of the box. "Brother Petty are you a real friar?" answer, "No, but I am going to apply at Universal Life Church to become an ordained minister for $15.00." "Brother Petty where is the school/church incorporated." "It isn't, I do not believe in that, besides I did not have the money, but when I get the school going I will." These two simple questions point to fraud, and the inability to take care of the children financially. Where is the ability for one desperate broke friar to cover the insurance should anything happen?"
And here is the punchline. I blame EVERYONE but the kids. Every parent that turned their kids over to Phil, should go on trial. Everyone that crossed his path, and said nothing, should go on trial. Phil is sick, and twisted, but the crime as Anne will tell you is everyone that turned a blind eye, and let him practice his evil. It is like Michael Jackson on trial, we all know it was the parent that dropped little Bobby of at Neverland for the amusement of a 45 year-old that should have been on trial.
Society has gone to hell in a hand basket. The baby boomers on down have completely gotten it wrong, and the feral nature of them, has only gotten worse with each succeeding generation. Put the medication down, put the scotch down. Right now clarity is needed more than ever.
While I feel your pains, having a special needs child is no reason to try Phil the Butcher's school of torture. It is time we come to grips with how bad we have screwed the human experiment up.
We haven't even touched on the worst of Phil's crimes.
(please send hate mail to the same address it has be coming to since we turned Phil over to the police. If you must tape it to my car please use masking tape, as the clear stuff is a bitch to get off.)
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